help

[capnzebbie]

Would someone please tell me that I'm not worthless because I don't have any children and I'm 47 years old?

Would someone please tell me that I'm not crazy to think I still might possibly have a child even though I'm 47 years old?

And would someone please tell me that it's okay to still be ambivalent about this?

I'm looking at this website and this website and I'm very unhappy.

My mother is unhappy because she only has one grandchild. She wanted to have a lot of them. It's a shame that parents can't control that. *sigh* I've never really wanted to have children, but every time she talks about this I feel guilty. And I know I shouldn't. It's a shame that I can't control that.

I haven't wasted my life. But right now I just can't think of anything I've done.

It's entirely possible that I will continue to be ambivalent about this until my uterus falls out from disuse.

Comments

[sugar-mcduff.livejournal.com]

There is nothing wrong with not wanting kids and in no way does that make you worthless. Don't let your mother guilt trip you. Its not your responsiblity to keep her happy.

Kids are a HUGE responsibility and committment, more than most people will admit. Having them to make your mother (or anyone else) happy or just because someone accidentally knocked you up are not good reasons.

[capnzebbie.livejournal.com]

Thanks, sugar! *hugs* You are absolutely right. I know this in my head, but sometimes I get a little--fucked up. I'm much better now. :) It's so great that my LJ friends came through for me when I was feeling down.

[sugar-mcduff.livejournal.com]

Well, if friends you've never met can't help you, who can? ;) Hugs to you, too. We all get a little fucked up sometimes. Its nice to get reinforcement when you need it!